Talking with youth about ending sexual violence and oppression and creating a culture of consent can lead the group to SO MANY amazing places.
Here’s some links that we promised to share with the last couple of workshops that we did with high school students:
- Questions about alchohol and consent come up so often in our workshops. Everyday Feminism has a GREAT article with things to consider”
- “Don’t try to talk yourself into thinking that someone is more into sex than they actually are, and don’t try to convince yourself that someone is less drunk than they appear to be. Doing so may be tempting, but it can open the door to a whole host of potential problems, including committing sexual assault.”
- We’re finding that lots of folks have already seen the consent tea video when we come to visit them in class. This means we can have some good conversations about it.
- When facilitating workshops, we have quoted ‘The standard you walk past is the standard you accept,’ from this video, many times:
- When we ask why folks aren’t using words to ask for consent, some young men share that they are afraid of ending up in the ‘friendzone’. Everyday Feminism and BuzzFeed have great articles that unpack why ‘friendzone’ is entitlement and harmful.
- “We shouldn’t expect to get rewarded with sex or a romantic commitment simply for being a decent human being.”
- When talking about how consent has to be given willingly and freely, many participants were struggling to understand how someone who is afraid that saying ‘no’ will lead to further violence, we shared a recent story of a woman who was killed for not giving a man her phone number.
- Young women want to talk about sexist dress codes and we’re have lots of examples of young women taking action!
- Lots of folks already know about how sexist double standards affect women, but sexism and toxic masculinity harm men as well. Films like Shredded and Tough Guise examine this.
- We always end our workshops by talking about everyday ways folks can work to end sexual violence in their communities. This week we had a great example of bystander intervention with the story of Kathrine Switzer’s number being retired from the Boston Marathon.
- Draw the Line is a FABULOUS bystander intervention campaign that asked real life questions about sexual violence and gives folks tools and strategies for responding.
For the month of March, McMaster’s Student Walk Home Attendant Team will be donating one dollar to SACHA for every walk that they provide.
SWHAT understands that walking home late at night doesn’t cause sexual assault, so they created some awesome images to help bust myths and lies about rape.
If you’re on McMaster’s campus you can request a walk anytime from 7pm – 1am, 7 days a week three ways:
1. Call 905 525 9140 ext 27500
2. Visit our office in MUSC 226
3. Online walk form, at msumcmaster.ca/swhat
Yesterday SACHA’s Jia Qing and Lenore spoke at City Council about the need for a city-wide Transgender Protocol.
Here’s their presentation:
Good Morning, I’m Jia-Qing Wilson-Yang and this is Lenore Lukasik-Foss. We’re here today on behalf of the Sexual Assault Centre (Hamilton and Area), also known as SACHA, to encourage City Council to support the Transgender Protocol. In my work on a provincial project on trans women and sexual violence, coordinating a Canada wide research project on trans women affected by HIV, and as a youth worker supporting trans youth; as well as in my life as a trans woman, living in community with other trans women, I can tell you that first steps like this protocol need to be supported by people like you.
There simply are not enough statistics about trans people, but thanks to Trans Pulse an Ontario based study, we know that 34% of trans women have been physically assaulted for being trans and that 98% of trans people have experienced transphobia* (Marcellin, 2012.) We know that across Canada, 70% percent of trans youth report having been sexually harassed. Continue reading
Healing is hard work. The effects of sexual and emotional harm are complicated and make the path of a survivor unclear, nuanced, and volatile. What works for one person might not for another, and even what works for one person at one time, might not work at another. It can be draining to be constantly on the alert for what kind of care you need at each given moment, but with patience and support it does get easier.
Here are a few thoughts passers-through in the SACHA office have about what’s helping them heal right now:
We couldn’t make Take Back the Night happen in Hamilton without all these amazing people, organizations, and businesses!
Next time you see someone from these businesses and unions, please thank them for their amazing SACHA support.
The Take Back the Night committee is an AMAZING group of women that start planning the event in April. They do everything from finding donations, booking performers, making big decisions about the event, and helping folks to make signs. We appreciate their awesomeness, their energy, and their dedication to a world without sexual violence. Thank you TBTN committee members!
It takes over 30 volunteers to make the event run smoothly. Thank you to all the volunteers who helped create safety at the march by marshalling, who carried puppets, who served food, and who helped with clean up late into the night. We appreciate you.
Inasmuch House is creating a zine (small publication) about the need for a National Housing Strategy that addresses the lack of safe and affordable housing, and how this affects women and families accessing violence against women and homeless shelters.
We would love contributions from other shelters, as well as spaces that work with women and families who have experiences trying to access safe and affordable housing.
Ideas for how to contribute:
- Hold a workshop to talk about the National Housing Strategy and how it impacts women and families in shelters
- Ask about the women and families experiences and stories, as well ideas for how to make positive changes – collect their stories in written format
- Using half of an 8.5×14 sheet of paper, have residents share their experiences with housing – write poems, draw, collage, make a list, etc. – to contribute to the publication
- Write / make art about your own experiences as a transition support worker working with women and families accessing housing: what are some major obstacles you’ve seen, what ideas do you have that could improve access?