You can interrupt sketchy behaviour at a bar, concert, or a party to prevent
These skills are new for lots of folks! Just like first aid, these strategies require learning, relearning, and practice.
SACHA has got your back! If you see something sketchy and you unsure how to take action, you can call SACHA’s 24 Hour Support Line to chat about ideas and options – 905.525.4162.
The number one action you can take RIGHT NOW is:
- learning more about how sexual violence is complex and nuanced
- committing to daily unlearning the myths and lies we are taught about rape
- practicing consent in everyday ways –
- asking for a hug
- asking before taking a friend’s picture
- asking someone what they’re pronouns are or how to pronounce their name
- The second part of consent is REALLY LISTENING
Bystander Intervention Skills
Don’t go it alone. Gather your peeps. Who is near that can help?A friend? Security staff? Even if it’s just to validate that the behaviour is not OK.
- “I think she needs our help, but I don’t know what to do. Have any ideas?”
- “Will you watch while I go chat with them?”
Approach either the person being targeted or the person doing the harassing and be direct.
- “Are you OK?”
- “Can I help you?”
- “That’s not OK.”
- “You need to stop.”
Think of a way to distract the folks involved in the situation: either the person being targeted or the person doing the harassing.
- “Can you take a pic of my friends and I?”
- “What time is it?”
- “Where’s the washrooms?”
- “That’s a FAB outfit! Where did you get it?”
- “My friend’s gone missing. Can you help me find them?”
Make a record or keep your eye on the situation in case it escalates.