Talking with youth about ending sexual violence and oppression and creating a culture of consent can lead the group to SO MANY amazing places.
Here’s some links that we promised to share with the last couple of workshops that we did with high school students:
- Participants are always shocked at how high the rates of sexual violence are:
- Questions about alchohol and consent come up so often in our workshops. Everyday Feminism has a GREAT article with things to consider”
- “Don’t try to talk yourself into thinking that someone is more into sex than they actually are, and don’t try to convince yourself that someone is less drunk than they appear to be. Doing so may be tempting, but it can open the door to a whole host of potential problems, including committing sexual assault.”
- We’re finding that lots of folks have already seen the consent tea video when we come to visit them in class. This means we can have some good conversations about it.
- When facilitating workshops, we have quoted ‘The standard you walk past is the standard you accept,’ from this video, many times:
- When we ask why folks aren’t using words to ask for consent, some young men share that they are afraid of ending up in the ‘friendzone’. Everyday Feminism and BuzzFeed have great articles that unpack why ‘friendzone’ is entitlement and harmful.
- “We shouldn’t expect to get rewarded with sex or a romantic commitment simply for being a decent human being.”
- When talking about how consent has to be given willingly and freely, many participants were struggling to understand how someone who is afraid that saying ‘no’ will lead to further violence, we shared a recent story of a woman who was killed for not giving a man her phone number.
- We talked with young women athletes about the incredible #ThisGirlCan campaign and about Shireen Ahmed’s work:
- Young women want to talk about sexist dress codes and we’re have lots of examples of young women taking action!
- Lots of folks already know about how sexist double standards affect women, but sexism and toxic masculinity harm men as well. Films like Shredded and Tough Guise examine this.
- We always end our workshops by talking about everyday ways folks can work to end sexual violence in their communities. This week we had a great example of bystander intervention with the story of Kathrine Switzer’s number being retired from the Boston Marathon.
- Draw the Line is a FABULOUS bystander intervention campaign that asked real life questions about sexual violence and gives folks tools and strategies for responding.