Prove It.

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To all everyone who is asking us on our Facebook feed and to our faces to prove that Jian Ghomeshi assaulted women:

We don’t have to, for one simple reason: We believe survivors.

Here’s the truth:

  • A not guilty verdict doesn’t mean that sexual assaults didn’t happen.
  • Survivors RARELY lie about being sexually assaulted.
  • Alcohol does not cause sexual assault.
  • Neither does clothing.

We believe survivors.
We believe women.
We believe men.
We believe trans folks, genderqueer folks, and non-binary folks.
We believe survivors who also do sex work.
We believe Indigenous folks.
We believe survivors who are newcomers and immigrants.
We believe survivors who live with a disAbility.
We believe grandparents.
We believe children.
We believe queer and LGBQTTI2S folks.
We believe asexual folks.
We believe survivors who had a drink.
We believe survivors who were drunk.
We believe survivors who were stoned.
We believe survivors who invited their abuser into their home.
We believe survivors who accepted a ride from their abuser.
We believe survivors who slept over.
We believe survivors who made breakfast for their abuser.
We believe survivors who stayed in a relationship with their abuser.
We believe survivors who got back together with their abuser.
We believe survivors who went on another date.
We believe survivors who tried to smooth things over.
We believe survivors who minimized the abuse for their safety.
We believe survivors who have been criminalized.
We believe survivors who didn’t realize what happened was sexual assault until days, months, or years later.
We believe survivors who didn’t realize what happened was sexual assault until they heard other survivors’ stories.
We believe survivors who told a friend about it.
We believe survivors who waited years to tell.
We believe survivors who fought back.
We believe survivors who didn’t fight back.
We believe survivors who froze.
We believe survivors who are emotional when they tell.
We believe survivors who are blank when they tell.
We believe survivors who giggle when they talk about the assault.
We believe survivors who experience systemic violence daily.
We believe survivors who experience poverty.
We believe survivors who experience racism.
We believe survivors who experience homelessness.
We believe survivors who experience ableism.
We believe survivors who are psychiatric survivors.
We believe survivors who had sex with their abuser in the past.
We believe survivors who have posted sexy pictures of themselves.
We believe survivors who send sexy flirty texts.
We believe survivors who were assaulted by someone famous or well respected.
We believe survivors who don’t remember everything about the assault.
We believe survivors who remember different information about the assault at different times.
We believe survivors who were told that they are ‘unrapable‘.
We believe survivors who have bodies of all shapes and sizes.
We believe survivors who report.
We believe survivors who don’t report.
We believe survivors who choose not to forgive their abuser.
We believe survivors who forgive their abuser.
We believe survivors who don’t remember all the details.
We believe survivors who were wearing sexy clothes.
We believe survivors who were wearing pajamas.
We believe survivors who were blamed for their assault.
We believe survivors who were told not to speak out.
We believe survivors who are told they are overreacting.
We believe survivors who were told they don’t seem upset enough.
We believe survivors who were told to think of their abuser’s feelings or reputation.
We believe folks who don’t like the word ‘survivor’.
We believe survivors….*

We will believe you if you tell us you were sexually assaulted. SACHA’s support line is here 24 hours a day – 905.525.4162

*This is not a complete list! Add your thoughts in the comments…

2 thoughts on “Prove It.

  1. This is absolutely brilliant and so needed. I read it in Facebook and a few days later one of my friends who has been assaulted was really upset about the way nobody believes women. I looked and looked for this post all day because it said what I wanted to say so perfectly. (Thanks to our mutual friend Amy for finding it for me.) It’s a culture we absolutely have to change, so thank you for doing your part.❤
    ~Jessica Thompson

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